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my darling husi;

By misslake (Thu Nov 09, 2006 at 02:53:16 PM EST) (all tags)

i am miserable.

256 has decided to end our relationship.
i have to say, i didn't see it coming.

yes, oh yes. i am frustrated, sad, petty, spiteful, confused, hurt, betrayed, annoyed, unhappy, angry and all that stuff.

he told me sunday night.
right now, i've got a little bit of serenity going on so i thought i'd share. i don't want to risk coming online in a fit of rage and posting something regrettable.

i'm ok, as in, still going to work, still smiling and laughing at jokes. i'm not completely falling to pieces. but i am quite upset.
and at a loss for what to say or do.

husi, my friends, your continued love and support is appreciated. advice, shoulders to cry on, cheer ups, food, hugs and whatever else you might have to share will be accepted with many thanks.

xox
misslake

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#HUG# by greyrat (4.00 / 2) #1 Thu Nov 09, 2006 at 02:56:31 PM EST

So I guess I have to reassess my 'escape my current life by running to Candideia' plans.

I am sorry for your loss.
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There is absolutely no correlation or causation amongst intelligence, power, talent and wealth.
Kha-Nyou

What are you talking about? by debacle (3.00 / 2) #12 Thu Nov 09, 2006 at 03:32:14 PM EST

She's available. No better time than now.

"I'm very responsive to certain stimuli, and pain is pretty much at the top of that list." - BadDoggie

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: HAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAAAAAAA!!!! by greyrat (4.00 / 1) #21 Thu Nov 09, 2006 at 04:12:58 PM EST

Aside from the rebound factor, as much as I may flirt and talk dirty with the lovely misslake and her kith, I doubt that any of them want to engage in a relationship with someone who is just about old enough to be their father. If anyone actually wants that, it's up to them to initiate.
Thanks for the 'sentiment' though.
~
There is absolutely no correlation or causation amongst intelligence, power, talent and wealth.
Kha-Nyou
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the country is still here for you to run to. by misslake (4.00 / 1) #44 Fri Nov 10, 2006 at 12:26:58 AM EST

and the shawshack is still here for you to crash at.

thanks for all the flirting, it makes me feel flattered, and pretty in a creepy lolita/daddy's girl kinda way.

i'm not looking for a new marriage or long term relationship with anyone right now.
i don't think this breakup affects your invitation into our circle of "people we know IRL."

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: I never intended to suggest that you by greyrat (2.00 / 0) #59 Fri Nov 10, 2006 at 07:58:21 AM EST

wanted a relationship. That was debacle. And if it make it less creepy: Of course you'd never have anything to do with me! That's part of what makes the flirting fun!
~
There is absolutely no correlation or causation amongst intelligence, power, talent and wealth.
Kha-Nyou
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Oh Gosh. by moonvine (4.00 / 3) #2 Thu Nov 09, 2006 at 03:02:26 PM EST

Hugs and kisses for you my friend. I have always enjoyed Henry Rollins breaking up is hard to do bit. Well not really "enjoyed"- hell, shit, I HATE break ups. But I'll send it your way if you want ... the ref's might be a bit dated but wearing black and listening to the cure can easily be replaced with wearing black and listening to Useless by skinny puppy. Or Blixco. Or whatever you find yourself drawn to.

Or, I'll just have to go home and dig up a sweet Dorothy Parker poem about love and send it to you. I am truly sorry that you are feeling so miserable.

you are beautiful. by misslake (4.00 / 2) #45 Fri Nov 10, 2006 at 12:31:54 AM EST

i have always loved your botanical name.

send send send, henry rollins and a love poem.

whenever i see moonvines or morning glories or even convululous, i am reminded of you.

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: Darling angel baby- by moonvine (2.00 / 0) #67 Sat Nov 11, 2006 at 05:34:31 PM EST

Please check your pm. Oh, how your comment made me feel warm and fuzzy and sad and teary all at once. Words, oh, how they cast spells... xoxo.

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I'm sorry to hear that by georgeha (4.00 / 3) #3 Thu Nov 09, 2006 at 03:06:38 PM EST

ouch. by aphrael (4.00 / 2) #4 Thu Nov 09, 2006 at 03:10:27 PM EST

i'm sorry to hear that. HUG

this, too, shall pass --- but the bright tomorrow doesn't reduce the clouds today.

If television is a babysitter, the internet is a drunk librarian who won't shut up.

: tomorrow may come, by misslake (4.00 / 1) #46 Fri Nov 10, 2006 at 12:34:01 AM EST

tomorrow may never come again.
thanks for the hug.

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I'm so sorry. :-( by toxicfur (4.00 / 1) #5 Thu Nov 09, 2006 at 03:10:47 PM EST

If you need anything, just let me know. Breaking up sucks, more than words can begin to describe.
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inspiritation: the effect of irritating someone so much it inspires them to do something about it. --BuggEye

: thanks, by misslake (4.00 / 1) #47 Fri Nov 10, 2006 at 12:41:15 AM EST

i'm not sure what i need.
maybe some plate smashing.
or crappy movies.
or the cool glow of a dimly lit room, face illuminated by the artifical glow of the screen, heart illuminated by the friendship of text based strangers.

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>hugs< by StackyMcRacky (4.00 / 3) #6 Thu Nov 09, 2006 at 03:12:51 PM EST

so sorry to hear it.

we're here for you, even if you want to get ranty (but may i suggest posting in the hole?)

*Hugs*, *Drugs* ... by yicky yacky (4.00 / 8) #7 Thu Nov 09, 2006 at 03:15:00 PM EST

... errr ... *Thugs* ... *Bugs* ... (?!)

That mid-pitched rumbling is the sound of thousands of jaws hitting desktops all around the world.

As the Jamaicans in my old neighbourhood used to say, "The man a d'yam fool".

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17 days left ...

(Comment Deleted) by tuscoops (4.00 / 1) #8 Thu Nov 09, 2006 at 03:17:43 PM EST

This comment has been deleted by tuscoops

?!? by misslake (4.00 / 1) #48 Fri Nov 10, 2006 at 01:02:04 AM EST

deleted! before i even read it!

curse your hindsight. i'm curious now.

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: Basically by tuscoops (2.00 / 0) #57 Fri Nov 10, 2006 at 07:53:33 AM EST

I said what Bob Abooey went on later to say: that things will get better. It's just that a concerned person thought that my choice of words could be hurtful to parties involved, so I figured it would just be easier to delete it. And apologies to anyone I may have unintentionally hurt.

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Nothing wrong with posting in a fit of rage by debacle (4.00 / 4) #9 Thu Nov 09, 2006 at 03:21:50 PM EST

Better than cutting his brake lines. Not much better, but it'll keep you out of jail.

You have our love and support, as always.

"I'm very responsive to certain stimuli, and pain is pretty much at the top of that list." - BadDoggie

best wishes, dear by johnny (4.00 / 5) #10 Thu Nov 09, 2006 at 03:22:27 PM EST

I don't know that you and I have ever exchanged a comment, but certainly I consider you a friend. Hang in there & all good wishes.
Buy my books, dammit!

*hugs* by ana (4.00 / 3) #11 Thu Nov 09, 2006 at 03:23:05 PM EST

dunno what else to say. we're here if you want anything. :-(

Regular, or decaf abomination? --Kellnerin

"dunno what else to say" - same here by lb008d (4.00 / 1) #13 Thu Nov 09, 2006 at 03:34:16 PM EST

My reaction is "WHAT??"

Stick around misslake, I do enjoy your writing here.

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We do have a spare bedroom... by toxicfur (4.00 / 3) #15 Thu Nov 09, 2006 at 03:40:18 PM EST

in case misslake needs to flee Toronto for a few days. And I hope she knows she can rant at any of us at any time.
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inspiritation: the effect of irritating someone so much it inspires them to do something about it. --BuggEye
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oooohhh!!! by misslake (4.00 / 1) #49 Fri Nov 10, 2006 at 01:04:55 AM EST

sympathy holiday!

where are you exactly?
i think i might want a vacation from my heartache soon.

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: the boston burbs by ana (4.00 / 1) #56 Fri Nov 10, 2006 at 06:53:42 AM EST

and you really would be welcome. we even have kitties and a puppy to share body heat with.
Regular, or decaf abomination? --Kellnerin
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keep serenity flying by Kellnerin (4.00 / 1) #14 Thu Nov 09, 2006 at 03:36:42 PM EST

Erm, and other than crappy Firefly refs, I wanted to say I loved the "i will flee to your rescue" run in your WFC entry, but I'd hoped to say so on a happier occasion :(

--
"If we build it, will they come, and what will they do when they get here?" -- iGrrrl

: thanks! by misslake (4.00 / 1) #50 Fri Nov 10, 2006 at 01:13:22 AM EST

i was both very proud and very frustrated with my wfc.
i knew that it would be weirdly too personal, and i needed to introduce the charaters of me and my beloved, but since i was too close, i knew them both too well, i couldnt' figure out a decent way of making anyone else care about the strangers on the page. so i threw it in, after only one critique and one edit. it knew it needed more "story" or "plot", but i was stumped.
i was so proud of my words, and the way that they fit so effortlessly together and accurately expressed how i felt in one moment of passion, i had to share it.

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Whaaaaa? by blixco (4.00 / 6) #16 Thu Nov 09, 2006 at 03:47:28 PM EST

Holy crap.

Well, girl, you got a whole huge group of people here who want you to be happy. We hope you will be.

Hugs!
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I accidentally had a conversation in italian at lunchtime. I don't speak italian. - Merekat

It's time for you to start by muchagecko (4.00 / 2) #62 Fri Nov 10, 2006 at 08:53:04 PM EST

your harem.

misslake is the perfect candidate with her experience.

The only people to get even with are those that have helped you.
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I'm bad at by blixco (4.00 / 2) #63 Fri Nov 10, 2006 at 09:11:26 PM EST

giving attention to more than one person.
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I accidentally had a conversation in italian at lunchtime. I don't speak italian. - Merekat
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Hey! What a novel idea. Bring it on baby! [nt] by greyrat (4.00 / 1) #64 Fri Nov 10, 2006 at 09:24:49 PM EST

[nt] == now thinking...
~
There is absolutely no correlation or causation amongst intelligence, power, talent and wealth.
Kha-Nyou
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a brilliant idea. by misslake (4.00 / 1) #65 Sat Nov 11, 2006 at 03:24:48 AM EST

who else wants to be in my harem of husis?

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: I didn't even think of that. by muchagecko (2.00 / 0) #66 Sat Nov 11, 2006 at 02:41:21 PM EST

Your harem would be very interesting.
I'm intrigued.

The only people to get even with are those that have helped you.
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: sadly by aphrael (2.00 / 0) #68 Sun Nov 12, 2006 at 12:54:25 AM EST

i dont think enough husites swing both ways for me to be happy in a harem of husites.

If television is a babysitter, the internet is a drunk librarian who won't shut up.
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The fact that you waited 4 days to post by vorheesleatherface (4.00 / 8) #17 Thu Nov 09, 2006 at 03:53:11 PM EST

and posted a pretty level headed entry without trashing him reflects very well on you. You're a cut above the rest. Hang in there sweetcheeks. That's some rough shit to go through. You'll feel happy again soon enough. Promise.

"Stabbing someone in the head with a pitchfork is rarely beneficial to the relationship." - MereKat

I'm sorry by komet (4.00 / 4) #18 Thu Nov 09, 2006 at 04:00:31 PM EST

To be honest, I am absolutely astounded. I had you two down as super-stable. Damn.

Anyway, I wish you all the best. Please don't stop posting to Husi.

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<ni> komet: You are functionally illiterate as regards trashy erotica.

: ah, me too. by misslake (2.00 / 0) #52 Fri Nov 10, 2006 at 01:19:10 AM EST

i kept thinking, sure this is a little crappy, but it's sure to straighten itself out. so you're having a rough patch and getting on each other's nerves lately. it'll be ok, or you'll change a little, or you'll grow a little, or it'll vanish.
i had so much patience, i wanted a little less of this, a little more of that...but i didn't even consider breaking up a possibility, since i was confident on having forever to iron out whatever concerns we had. i assumed we'd have a breakthrough, a moment, or a long slow drift or fizzle, and then forget about ever feeling out of sync.
now we are both unhappy. and on the verge of crying. and not sure whhat to do next.

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ouch... by Metatone (4.00 / 3) #19 Thu Nov 09, 2006 at 04:03:47 PM EST

hang in there. We're all here to hear your ranting and further adventures...

Well . . . damn. by Christopher Robin was Murdered (4.00 / 4) #20 Thu Nov 09, 2006 at 04:04:05 PM EST

You're still aces with the folks here. That might not do it for you right now, but we'll be around here should you need us.

hey by persimmon (4.00 / 2) #22 Thu Nov 09, 2006 at 04:22:45 PM EST

We don't really talk, but I'm still sorry. My sympathies.
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_{"Nature is such a fucking plagarist."}

ahhhh by Gedvondur (4.00 / 1) #23 Thu Nov 09, 2006 at 04:35:55 PM EST

I am sorry sweetheart.

Be strong and take care of yourself. Over time you will feel better and be happy again.

I know those are hollow words at this juncture, but there is very little I can say that would be better.

My thoughts will be with you.

Gedvondur
"I don't have enough middle fingers to communicate my feelings to you." --clover kicker

i have snuggles. by LilFlightTest (4.00 / 2) #24 Thu Nov 09, 2006 at 05:19:01 PM EST

and, i have hugs, and kissies, and all the other good warm stuff. but more than that, nick and i have love to give away. *smooches*, hun. you know where to find me if you need anything.
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Dance On, Gir!

*hug* by nstenz (4.00 / 1) #25 Thu Nov 09, 2006 at 05:23:21 PM EST

sorry babe :( by MillMan (4.00 / 2) #26 Thu Nov 09, 2006 at 05:37:38 PM EST

When I'm imprisoned as an enemy combatant, will you blog about it?

You know by Bob Abooey (4.00 / 10) #27 Thu Nov 09, 2006 at 06:02:54 PM EST

While 256 has never broken up with me, I've known my share of heartache.

As such I know the last thing you want to hear are a bunch of stock platitudes, like "it's always darkest just before dawn" or "I'd like to hump you like a drunken French schoolgirl at the prom" and the like, so I won't be offering any of them up.

Alas, you can take solace in the fact that you're a smokin hot bisexual minx, and I'm fairly certain those are in hot demand today. So fear not, my little pretty, happier days are just around the corner.

Warmest regards,
--Your best pal Bob

It's always darkest just before dawn? by komet (4.00 / 3) #28 Thu Nov 09, 2006 at 06:21:11 PM EST

That's not just a platitude, that's plain false. It's always darkest at the mid-point between dusk and dawn, and just before dawn it's actually pretty bright.

Is there a list of platitudes on the net somewhere? I want to make fun of them.

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<ni> komet: You are functionally illiterate as regards trashy erotica.
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: it is, however by aphrael (4.00 / 2) #29 Thu Nov 09, 2006 at 06:25:09 PM EST

always the coldest just before dawn.

If television is a babysitter, the internet is a drunk librarian who won't shut up.
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Fear not by Phil the Canuck (4.00 / 3) #30 Thu Nov 09, 2006 at 06:47:30 PM EST

I saw your hole entries. You have a smile that can light up whole rooms. It's only a matter of time before you find someone that can't be without it.

My shoulder's a bit far away by ambrosen (4.00 / 1) #31 Thu Nov 09, 2006 at 06:50:52 PM EST

Otherwise it would be offered for crying on. I'll let druisan cry on me tomorrow and he can pass it on once he's back in Toronto.

There's nothing in life as unfathomable as the human heart, but still, I'm surprised.

And because everyone else thinks they're above platitudes, I'll bung in an irrelevant PG Wodehouse favourite: Plenty more onions in the stew.

What the Fu...? by littlestar (4.00 / 3) #32 Thu Nov 09, 2006 at 06:58:48 PM EST

Really. Wow. How very unexpected. Is he following someone? I would like to speak with you and give you hugs. Perhaps a coffee date? Let me know.

Love.
*twinkle*twinkle*

*littlestar.

Kiss & Squish by CheeseburgerBrown (4.00 / 1) #33 Thu Nov 09, 2006 at 07:01:27 PM EST

xxx ooo

I am from a small, unknown country in the north called Ca-na-da.

Wha? by edward (4.00 / 1) #34 Thu Nov 09, 2006 at 07:13:08 PM EST

Are you sure we're interpreting this correctly?

You write "my darling husi, i am miserable, 256 has decided to end our relationship."

I read that as meaning that 256 has said that you and he will no long be posting on husi; that is, since the note is addressed to "my darling husi", the "our" refers not to you and 256 but to you and 256 AND husi.

How perfectly odd, you and 256 seemed to be rather solid-- and besides, didn't you have one of those "open" relationship type deals? Are you still going to be living together in the same place? I mean, it's still a bit weird since you and he technically have two separate rooms in a house you rent with others, correct?

I think you're both just going to stop posting here, right?

Are you thick? [nt] by debacle (4.00 / 1) #35 Thu Nov 09, 2006 at 08:04:51 PM EST

"I'm very responsive to certain stimuli, and pain is pretty much at the top of that list." - BadDoggie

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err.... clear as an unmuddied lake. by misslake (4.00 / 3) #43 Fri Nov 10, 2006 at 12:22:37 AM EST

are you some kind of grammer/sentence structure enforcement officer? isn't there some kind of leiniency granted to heartbroken wives?

256 is no longer my lover, partner, boyfriend, spouse, husband, steady, beau, man o' mine, wife, or main squeeze.

husi is an internet scoop community and blog site, a delightful collection of people i like to tell normals that i know only from The Internets.

i think i said (and meant) dear husi: 256 has dumped me. i am sad. send love.

yep. i didn't see it coming neither.
we did have an open relationship. we are still living together in the same house. we were sharing the largest room in a house we split with others. this weekend, i will move into MissTrish's former room, MissTrish and ncmt will move into 256 and my old room. 256 will move into the menagerie, all the pets will move into MissTrish's former room with me.

i cannot speak for 256, but i am still posting here. like even right now.

you'd better not be trolling me, or i'll go all proverbial on your ass and show you that hell ain't got no fury on a scorned dame such as me.

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: Not an officer nor troll by edward (4.00 / 1) #51 Fri Nov 10, 2006 at 01:18:07 AM EST

I was just confused. I mean, it just seemed like you and 256 had found a relationship style and pace that Just Worked for you, ya know?
You seem like the type of person to overcome this heartache and come out stronger and better for it. If there's one thing I've learned in my life when it comes to heartbreak and failed relationships, it's that there're always people out there who, while different than your last partner, will still 'click' with you in new and interesting ways. There's a lot of fun and adventure in finding someone different but with whom you are compatible.

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*hugs* by ShadowNode (4.00 / 1) #36 Thu Nov 09, 2006 at 08:48:00 PM EST

I know it doesn't seem like it now, but it's all for the best. You deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you, and you will.

condolences - hugs - best wishes by clover kicker (4.00 / 1) #37 Thu Nov 09, 2006 at 09:22:12 PM EST

suggested therapy, but don't overdo it.

: Excessive Hank Williams listening ... by Ignore Amos (4.00 / 2) #39 Thu Nov 09, 2006 at 09:48:39 PM EST

... almost invariably leads to excessive Maker's Mark consumption. This also can be therapeutic for a short time, but again, don't overdo it.

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Sorry by MisterQueue (4.00 / 1) #38 Thu Nov 09, 2006 at 09:22:49 PM EST

sometimes whist-filled wiles bring bitter smiles and trace the miles.

But it still sucks. Whiskey fills all voids for a time... for a time.. for a time.

-Q
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It shone, pale as bone,
As I stood there alone.

No fun. by iGrrrl (4.00 / 2) #40 Thu Nov 09, 2006 at 09:54:54 PM EST

I do remember my last serious surprise breakup. It took a long time for the world to stop looking *wrong*. I'm sorry you're going through whatever your version of that is.

"I don't have time for martial law, I have to get to the gym!" zarathus

Wanna be my girlfriend? by muchagecko (4.00 / 2) #41 Thu Nov 09, 2006 at 10:07:58 PM EST

I know you've got plenty of girls up there, but if you ever decide to go south, you've got to visit me here.

The only people to get even with are those that have helped you.

: Ob I find your comments interest and would by greyrat (4.00 / 3) #58 Fri Nov 10, 2006 at 07:54:00 AM EST

like to subscribe to your newsletter...
"Ever decide to go south" indeed!
~
There is absolutely no correlation or causation amongst intelligence, power, talent and wealth.
Kha-Nyou
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That sucks by theboz (4.00 / 2) #42 Fri Nov 10, 2006 at 12:01:37 AM EST

I'm not good at comforting people, so just know that you have my sympathy.
- - - - -
That's what I always say about you, boz, you have a good memory for random facts about pussy. -- joh3n

I felt this coming on, frankly. by ammoniacal (4.00 / 1) #53 Fri Nov 10, 2006 at 03:34:52 AM EST

No pun intended.

In fact, I feel badly for not saying something about this vibe earlier, to the both of y'all.
In any case, this sucks, and we won't have it.

Irony: ammo says it's time. Tom is blocked.

I'm amazed. by Phage (4.00 / 1) #54 Fri Nov 10, 2006 at 05:08:22 AM EST

Damn...

Founder member Golgafrinchan 'B' Ark

A bit late... by Alice Pulley (4.00 / 2) #55 Fri Nov 10, 2006 at 05:32:08 AM EST

...but sorry. Respect for the way you guys are handling it (eg like adults) and to go with the other platitudes, if its meant to be, it'll work itself out and if not, at least it sounds like you guys can still be friends.

<hug>

--

'But they're adults and perfectly capable of working it out themselves. And if not, well, fuck em.' - Nebbish '06.

Comment number 60 . . . by slozo (4.00 / 3) #60 Fri Nov 10, 2006 at 08:19:08 AM EST

. . . how the hell was I the last to know? I thought I was on Husi all day yesterday . . .

Big hug. Commiserations. It is surprising to me as well, but then again, I'm not really in the know about these things . . .

You sound very hurt, and that sucks that it was such a surprise for you. I know that 256 must be hurting as well, though . . . so really, hugs to both of you, if that's okay?

i'm sorry by 606 (4.00 / 2) #61 Fri Nov 10, 2006 at 03:41:07 PM EST

everything's already been said in the comments above me but I just wanted to post to say that I read this and it sucks and I'm sorry.

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imagine dancing banana here

Never fear! by nebbish (4.00 / 2) #69 Mon Nov 13, 2006 at 06:30:41 AM EST

You can now join me (and practically everyone else on husi) in the joys of single life!:

- farting loudly whenever you want

- never cleaning ever again

- lone drinking

- sitting in front of the TV in your pants eating a big piece of cheese

Sorry, I was meant to be cheering you up, wasn't I? *big hug*

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It's political correctness gone mad!

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